In January I preached on "Defining the Relationship," or as we like to call it, the DTR.
The early church in Acts 15 had an important DTR on what it meant to be a Christian. The debate was over what outward signs and Old Testament laws needed to be kept by new converts. Thankfully, with the wisdom of Peter and James, they reasserted that these new converts were Christians by their faith and evidence of the Holy Spirit in their lives.
It says in Acts 15:8 "God, who knows the heart, showed that he accepted them (new converts) by giving the Holy Spirit to them, just as he did to us. He did not discriminate between us and them, for he purified their hearts by faith......We believe it is through the grace of our Lord Jesus that we are saved, just as they are.”
I believe we have several relationships that we need to have constant DTR's with. We need to look at how healthy the relationship is and what needs to be done to continue growing healthier.
The biggest issue with relationships is that we often share our frustrations with someone else instead of the person we're frustrated with! This is damaging for a variety of reasons (doesn't solve the issue, false intimacy with the wrong people). If you are frustrated with your spouse, then you should talk to them and not some 3rd party. If you are frustrated with God, then go to Him. If you are frustrated with a family member, then sharing with someone else doesn't resolve anything.
Make Time to Have These 2 DTR's
1. Our relationship with God. Are you in a dry season? What do you need to do to draw closer to Christ? It's always a good time for a DTR with God.
2. Our relationships with family. Is there a mess that needs reconciliation? Is there no depth? No goal for growth? It could be with your parents, child, siblings, or spouse. Healthy Relationships have Healthy Communication! Open. Honest. Loving.
There are obviously other relationships as well (neighbors, coworkers, friends, etc).
Michelle and I have two goals for 2013
1, Read 12 spiritual books together that will help grow our faith and keep a spiritual intimacy with each other. One book every month. I will post our list of books later this year.
2. Open our home more to others. Share life together and develop more relationships with people. Real conversations. We don't need more time with the tv or internet. Real people are best!
What relationship goals do you have for 2013?
How will you strengthen your relationship with God? Your Spouse? Family?
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